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Lindsay Oncken, Counseling Intern
Counseling Intern
Supervised by Natalie Najman, LMFT
Lindsay (she/they) is a queer-identified counseling intern working with individuals and couples who are doing the hard work of exploring—their relationships, identities, pains, joys, and all the complications that come with being human.
Her work is guided by three core beliefs: First, she believes nobody heals in isolation. Connection, community, and the ability to be genuinely known are some of the most powerful sources of healing and growth a person can access.
Second, she believes people make sense in context. The ways we think, feel, protect ourselves, and relate to others are shaped by our experiences and worlds.
Most importantly, Lindsay trusts that you have an innate wisdom about your own life. She may challenge you, offer a different perspective, or gently point out a pattern, but she will never assume she knows you better than you know yourself. The work is something you do together.
Lindsay might be a good fit for you if…
You're looking for a therapist who is warm, genuine, and down-to-earth, and who isn’t afraid to be direct when needed.
You want therapy to feel like a real relationship with a real person—not an awkward performance or clinical checklist.
You value collaboration, appreciate a little humor, and are open to the occasional swear word when the moment calls for it.
Approach to Counseling
Lindsay takes a relational, trauma-informed, and integrative approach to counseling that is deeply rooted in curiosity. They draw from Internal Family Systems (IFS), narrative therapy, and systems theories to help clients explore the internal, interpersonal, and systemic patterns that shape their lives. This means, instead of asking, "What's wrong with you?" they might ask, "Where is this story coming from?" or "How can we be more curious about this part of you?"
With couples, Lindsay pays attention not only to what partners are fighting about, but to the patterns underneath the fight. They help couples slow down recurring cycles, understand the needs and vulnerabilities beneath them, and build new ways of communicating and connecting. Their goal is not to decide who is right or wrong, but to help partners become more curious about each other and more intentional about the relationship they are creating together.
Lindsay’s practice is queer- and poly-affirming, and they welcome clients across a range of identities, relationship structures, and ways of living. They do not believe there is one correct blueprint for a meaningful relationship or a meaningful life. Instead, they work collaboratively with clients to explore what authenticity, connection, and fulfillment look like for them.
Education
Lindsay is currently completing her Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at Texas State University. Her clinical training includes relational, trauma-informed, Internal Family Systems, and narrative approaches to counseling. She continues to deepen her understanding of trauma, attachment, and relationships, including pursuing Gottman certification.
Outside of the therapy room, Lindsay is a former English major, artist, and unapologetic nerd who loves stories in pretty much every form. She enjoys Dungeons & Dragons, comics, crafts, and getting deeply invested in fictional characters. She believes stories have a remarkable ability to help us understand ourselves—who we are, what we value, and how we can affect the world around us.











